Smartphones negative effect on relationship.

 

Research has proven that smartphones has its negative effect on most relationships, aside from the positive aspect of it but lately it has really affected most relationship which could either destroy the relationship or complicate issues in the relationship.

Even in our day to day life’s smartphone has also contributed to sleep issues and depression, it can also help you stay in touch with family and friends worldwide meet partners online and also help you stay connected with your business associates all these either affect our life or make it better but on the other hand one primary downsides is their addictive nature it has in affecting our relationship.

We’ll be looking at various ways by which smartphone has affected relationships

1. when Your phone is ALWAYS on your mind.

Some of the most private moments couples have are in bed, yet checking your phone first thing when you wake up can definitely feel like an involuntary impulse. “There are actually a few things about smartphones that make it particularly easy for people to learn a conditioned response, “You put the phone near your bed and you use it as your alarm clock, you pick it up and it’s this automatic reaction to checking your email, checking your texts, Facebook, Instagram, etc. It just becomes a habit that you do, without even realizing that you’re doing it.” “The impact is that instead of waking up with just you and your partner, you’re waking with 50 other people in your mind,”. “then You begin to feel like you’re always sharing this person.”

2. when You Have Trouble Engaging in Deep Conversation.

Deep, meaningful conversations are a critical part of life. They enable us to develop true friendships with people that go beyond merely the surface. Unfortunately, our phones can make it difficult for us to engage in these kinds of deep, heartfelt conversations. In order for deep conversation to happen, we must be able to give our attention to a person for an extended period of time. We must be able to fully listen and respond to what they’re saying. If you find yourself never going below the surface during conversations, never talking about anything particularly meaningful, your phone could be at least partially to blame.

3. When Your Sex Life Is Suffering.

When you and your partner gets into bed and starts going through their phone which means they’re not thinking so much about cuddling and physical closeness. A worrying number of people have even admitted to checking their phone WHILST they’re getting intimate with a lover, which is an especially worrying sign that your relationship is taking the brunt of their addiction.

4. When paying much attention or been glued to your phone.

when you spend too much time on your phone, you isolate the people around you. As much as you may think you can multitask, brain research indicates your mind isn’t effective at switching between stimuli. in short, every minute you spend glued to your phone takes your attention away from your partner which is not right when you’re having an awkward conversation or enjoying a romantic meal.

5. when you also noticed Your phone is the first thing in your hand each morning.

 The first few minutes of your day set the tone for what comes next. If your first activity is reaching for your phone to check email and social media, you start the day feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

6.You use your phone at the dinner table.

 Strive to make family or partner mealtime a device-free zone. Doing so allows everyone to connect in real life and share their day.

6.You panic when you lose or break your phone.

 For most people, a broken cell phone is an inconvenience. If you find your heart racing or your mind in a panic when you can’t access it for a day or two, this is a clear sign you have an addiction.

7.When You sneak to use your phone.

Do you sneak off to the restroom multiple times a day at work to use your phone, to receive calls. To send text messages, to reply a chat? then you are an addict and this can affect your relationship with your partner.

HOW THEN CAN YOU DO AWAY WITH THESE NEGATIVE EFFECT SMARTPHONE HAS ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

1.First you need to Get Intimate

Getting intimate can be a positive way to take away the negative effect the use of smartphone has brought to your relationship all you need do is just lovingly caress your partner more, hug them more, or get up close and personal between the sheets more, show them that you’re a far better way to get a dopamine hit that a phone screen is.

2.Be Open to your partner

First things first, you need to be honest with your partner about how their phone addiction has been making you feel. If they realize that you have genuine concerns about the relationship as a result of their phone habits, it might be the motivation they need to make changes.

3.Put Your Phone Away

Let’s start with the most extreme measure. There are times when you simply need to put your phone away. Put it in a drawer. Lock it in a box. Do whatever it takes to break the addicting, distracting power of your smartphone. While your phone is away, use that time to engage in meaningful conversations with others.

4. Create New Rules for Yourself

It’s not enough to get intimate, be open to your partner, put your phone away, you also need to create new habits and boundaries for yourself. You need new norms of phone usage that will keep you from hurting your relationships. Consider creating specific rules for yourself about when you will and won’t use your phone. For example, maybe you won’t use your phone at all when you’re around your partner. Or maybe you won’t use your phone after a certain time so that you can fully engage with your partner.

It’s not easy to break long standing smartphone habits. If you’ve been in the habit of using your phone while with partner, you may find it difficult to change your patterns of behavior. But the work required is worth it. If your partner is on their phone all the time and it’s ruining your relationship, Don’t let your smartphone hinder your ability to give love to your partner rather, do whatever is required to ensure you do away with the negative effects it has on your relationship.